... what would be better external relays to use?
With the prospect of your 4 by 1, I recommend building a vacuum relay into a metal P-box punched to take your favorite bulkhead connectors and a grommet for 24V power into the relay.
Fair Radio Sales has good prices on Jennings (or equivalent) HV relays. Very fast acting, which addresses the problem of keying up without a load on relays with a slower changeover. You can find them at hamfests too if you want to take a chance.
Here's the one I use --
https://www.fairradio.com/catalog.php?mode=viewitem&item=5308Got a small, thick aluminum box with recessed lid and did it up.
I think I got the Hammond 1590 for the job, and got a set of Amphenol chassis mount RF connectors for common, tx and rx.
http://www.hammondmfg.com/dwg.htmWith good layout and your best soldering, there shouldn't be a significant loss through 10 meters.