Hi Joel,
I sent you an email response but it apparently did not make it. The following is a copy of that text:
I ordered an Omron general purpose relay from Mouser (
www.mouser.com). I would suggest Mouser stock #653-LY2-AC12 which I believe is the same model I installed and has the correct 12 volt AC coil. This is a DPDT relay and all you need is an SPST relay but there are not many relays with 12 volt AC coils. In any case, at $7.50 it is not very expensive. Most relays are designed to safely switch 250 volts AC with a large safety margin and 250 volts AC is equal to over 400 volts at the peak of the sine wave. Omron claims a 2000 volt AC dielectric strength and I have had no problems with my relay. You should use an arc suppressor across the relay contacts and the values I gave you earlier were off due to a typo, the resistor should be about 470 ohms and a .1 capacitor should be about right. Mouser has 2000 volt rated capacitors available and a .1 @ 2000 volts DC rating is part # 5984-940C20P1K-F for $2.86 Mouser has no minimum and shipping is quick with reasonable shipping charges.
As for the multi-conductor cable, maybe something you will find at a hamfest. Otherwise, you can get heatshrink tubing in long lengths and use this for the outer cover. Just be sure that you use sufficiently heavy wire for the filament wires and wire with HV insulation for the higher voltage lines.
73, Rodger WQ9E