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I got home to find this out today. She's got broken bones on her right side, her daughter was driving and they hit some ice and spun out.

Your good thoughts would be appreciated at this time.

73s
geo

Very sorry to hear about Geo, one never know when they leave home what is in store for them. I pray that your wife gets well quickly.If there is good news here, apparently her daughter did not get hurt.

Looks like you'll be doing all the chores for now.


Regards  Terry

Geo,
My thoughts are with u and your family....
Think good thoughts........

Bill

Sorry to hear that Geo,

Hope all turns out ok.

I told her this morning to please drive safely.....I didn't know that her daughter was going to do the driving on the way back.

And all day long I kept having these awful gut-feelings...something was wrong and I didn't know what. I was even tempted to stop by the hospital in Orangeville on the way home....but I figured it was just my imagination.

I saw the highway on the way home was closed by the cops....again gut feeling was acting up but I figured it was just some other redneck cowboy trucker who was trying to go up the hill and lost control (that happens a lot around here).

Stopping by the Orangeville hospital wouldn't have done any good anyway, Yvonne's in Toronto's St. Mikes hospital now, airlifted there with multiple broken bones on the right side and unconscious. Her brother, sister in law, sister and kids are all there and I'm sitting by the phone waiting for updates (it's a 2 hour drive to there, I'm shaking too damn much to drive right now, I'll wait by the phone for updates from the family).

Kids are ok, no damage to them, but they're shaken up of course.

praying for you and yours.

Just got off the phone with sister-in law. Injuries have been upgraded to life threatening, there's brain swelling involved. After the car spun out apparently a grave truck hit it.

I'm 2 hours away and feel so damned helpless!!

Hang in there, take a deep breath, it sounds like she's getting the best of care.

Bill

You need to be on your way to the hospital.  Please be by her side.

Contact one of your friends/neighbors to drive you; I am sure under the circumstances that many will be most willing to help.

Two hours is a long way but if one of my neighbors had this happen I would definitely not hesitate to drive the spouse to the hospital. 

I couldn't agree more. She will want you by her side. I know that's the way Margaret and I are.

Our prayers are with you and your wife and family.

Bill KA8WTK

Geo,
I am really sorry to hear about your news and my thoughts are with you and your family.

73  Alex

I just called St. Mikes now. She's going into surgery right now. She'll be in surgery for several hours starting from now, they had to drill a hole to relieve pressure on her brain and her whole right side is smashed up, everything.

Her vital signs have stabilized though! Thank God!

Neighbours aren't home, nobody to drive me and I'm too much a nervous wreck to go anywhere.

I'll try to call her parents again, they're in Florida and I think they're flying up.

God bless you and protect your wife!

I'm sending up prayers for you, Geo, for her, and for her doctors. Hang in there as best you can. I know that's much easier said than done.

73,

Tim - N3TL

Hope everything works out well, Geo.

Unexpected events like this certainly are tough to handle.

All our best for your wife's speedy recovery, OM.

T

Sister in law is heading back home now, she called me, told me just stay home because it's too far of drive to try, still snowing outside now, hands are shaking, not concentrating.

Yvonne is in surgery right now, doctors stabilized her vital signs, put in a bore hole to relieve brain pressure and stopped bleeding on her right side. According to her brother, her whole right side has broken bones.

Car spun on ice into the path of a big damned gravel truck.

Mein liebechen, Yvonne.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you, her and the entire family Geo.  Times like these make me reflect upon my own graces and prompt me towards gratitude.  She appears to be a strong woman and I will choose to believe the best possible outcome, total recovery, is inevitable.

God bless you all.

Thanks. Yes she's a farm girl!

Here's a picture of her when she was little.

Sorry to hear of this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife.

Geo, my thoughts and prayers are with you and Yvonne. Hang in there, my friend. She needs you and your strength right now.

ldb

Road conditions must have deteriorated quite a bit. They closed much of highway 9 here.

Along the red line, where that grey kite-shaped thing is? That's where her accident happened, and Grand Valley is just above that. Her accident happened this afternoon around 1:30 today and this snapshot was taken at 9:30 pm.

I talked to her brother and my parents some more. Either her brother or her sister are staying in the hospital overnight, then we'll all go down to see her tomorrow. Hopefully she'll be awake/conscious.

I'm exhausted but I have a gut feeling that she's out of danger now. I can't explain the source of the gut feeling but it's the same source that bugged me all afternoon that something was very wrong, yet I couldn't understand why I felt that way (I only learned of all of this after I came home, just after 6 pm).

I'll try to get some sleep. The kids are sleeping over at the farm.

Good night and please keep praying for her? She's the incredible sweetheart of my life and if I didn't have her love, I'd just fall apart into a puddle of genes.

73s
geo

geo,

keep us updated on her progress. I cant pray christian prayers, but I'll bundle up as much positive energy as I can and cast them her way tonight.

Geo,
Very sorry to hear about this!

Brett

My thoughts and prayers are with you and Yvonne. Go to her side as soon as you can. It's been shown that people in her condition can hear and feel the touch of your hand on hers. It's calming to them and they do better.

Thanks for sharing this with us. You can see that you have many friends on this list.

God Bless You.

Steve,
WA2TTP

Thoughts and prayers are with you and Yvonne.

Carl
/KPD

My mom was once at a friends house and my dad was on his way home from work. Mom all of a sudden got sick and scared and started crying saying something had happened to dad. Half hour later she got a call that his car had flipped over and he had some injuries.

There is definately something to that "gut feeling". Ive seen enough to know its real. There is a mental link but however it works is unexplainable.

Hoping she will be alright and you will be at peace.

Yes, "gut feelings" are inexplicable, but they're real, as far as I'm concerned.

My thoughts and prayers are with your wife, you, and your family, Geo.

It's 6:50 am, I could barely sleep. I phoned the hospital. Yvonne is out of surgery now. She's still unconscious, this is worrying the doctors because they feel she should be awake by now. She's going for a CT scan next.

:(

Geo,
I know it must be tuff not being able to get to her right now but I am sure she would not want you to travel in such bad conditions.  Hopefully the road conditions will improve and you will be able to be with your wife soon.  In the mean time sharing your thoughts with all your friends is a great thing to do.  Right now try to think positive since nothing good comes out of thinking anything other than positive.  Yes, she has some progress to make, but as you said, she is a strong lady and I am sure will fight hard.  We will keep both of you in our prayers. Keep your thoughts flowing to your friends as you see fit.
Best Wishes and Sincerely,
Joe, W3GMS

Geo,
Call your local police/sheriff/constable and ask if they could transport you.
The worst they can so is no! They may be able to find you a way in.

We're all with you Geo.
The very best to Yvonne.
From what you say, she's a wonderful woman.

We're all going down this morning. Her parents are flying in from Florida today. Just got off the phone, Yvonne is still unconscious, doctors are worried.

I talked on the phone to step-daughter who was driving. She's badly shaken and not badly injured. Car is a writeoff, police say no charges are being laid. It was a combination of snow drifts and black ice I have been told.

73s
geo

Our prayers are with you George. I hope everything works out for the best.

George
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Yvonne.
Wishing her a speedy and complete recovery.
Steve
WA2DTW

Geo,
       Our best thoughts and prayers go out to you and your wife. We will pray for her to have a speedy recovery.

Hang on closely to your friends and family for support through these hard times. It is amazing how mch their support really does to get you through times like this.

When I was in the hospital a month ago, they didnt know whether or not I was going to make it.  If it wasen't for the for the support from our neighbors, a few close friends, and AM ham radio community, my poor wife probably would have fallen apart. Their support kept her going, which in tern kept me going. I cannot thank everyone enough.

Dont be afraid or ashamed to lean on those close to you for support through these hard times. They will get you through!

Best of luck to both of you and we send our prayers as well.

                                                              The Slab Bacon

Photos of the car wreckage, taken about 1 hour ago. Yvonne was on the right side.

http://99.239.154.87/crash/

That's the final drive gear that landed on the seat behind the driver.

Geo,

You and your family are in our thoughts here.

73,

Rob

Really sorry to hear of this George.  Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife.  Hope she has a speedy recovery!

73,  Jack, W9GT

Geo

I am sorry to hear of your wife's bad car accident.  I'm certainly praying for a miraculous recovery

God bless, Al

 ..my thoughts are with you george.  hope all is going to be ok.  how are you holding up?..

..tim..

..sk..

Just getting up to speed on this--internet out past 3 days at home QTH--so sorry to read about this George & praying for ur family

Rob

We just got home from the hospital. Yvonne is breathing with the help of a ventilator. Her BP and heart rate are ok. But she's still unconscious though no sedatives have been added.

I held her hand and let her know I was there. Gradually I saw her BP increase when I did this. She also moved slightly her lower jaw, lower lip and very slightly moved her head.

I want so much to bring her home and look after her, but that wouldn't work of course. I have to be patient....but she's so damned irreplacible. How do you stop needing that which is irreplacible and precious?

In a way she is better off than those of us who miss her - we're conscious and feel the emotions of her absence from our lives at this moment.....I hope she feels the same way while in her unconscious state and is able to come back to us very soon!

My thoughts an prayers are with you, George.  I came close to losing my wife a few years back and know your feelings.  May God bring her healing and return her to you soon.

I just called the hospital. Yvonne is showing movement now in her left arm (right arm is too banged up in a cast), her head, her left leg and her fingers!!!

I KNEW that holding her hand, being close to her, telling her I loved her (she's deaf so it's done with single-handed sign language, pressure only) was the right thing to do!!! I just knew it!!

She's not out of the woods yet but this is a step in the right direction!

73s

Dear George:

My prayers go out to you and your wife.   We went through a similar episode with my dad a year ago tomorrow.   He could definitely tell we were there and after a couple of days he opened his eyes a little.   Just keep positive thoughts and hope for the best.   The doctor told us that people sometimes just come out of it within a short period.   

Very best,   Ed

Geo,

I was in her position not that long ago,  and being there makes a lot of difference. have as much family as you can muster with her as much as possible during the next week. the next milestone will be if she feels pain on her right side. If she does thats a GOOD thing, because it means her nerves are working and her brain is receiving and transmitting signals there, which is good news, not bad.

It may be too soon to tell right now,  but it will settle in on it's own accord. you cant rush anything neurological. the brain has it's own timetable.

That's ok, as long as she's still got a heartbeat, I've still got a lifetime to give her.

Geo, when I read about Yvonne being on a ventilator, I'd a painful flashback to my older brother's final hospital stay in June of last year.  He was on intravenous propofol from when he arrived until his death.  I've no proof, just a suspicion, that he may have succumbed to an overdose.

If at all possible, please don't allow this to be given to Yvonne; or if no alternative, only under rigid control.  Just my thoughts, you understand.

Thank goodness she's showing movement.  May she make a full recovery.

It's 6:54 am. I phoned the hospital. She remains unconscious but her left arm is slowly showing more motion. She's going for an MRI today.

Yvonne and you are in my prayers....Chris, AJ1G.

OMG those photos are frightening, my heart goes out to you and your family, you're in my thoughts and I pray for a speedy recovery.

She is in a coma from the collision. Up until now nobody used the "C" word but today the doctor used it. The doctor spoke to us all, Yvonne's parents, me, Krista, Matthew, Yvonne's sister. Yvonne's injury is described as micro hemmoraging due to shearing injury from the force of the impact.

Hemmoraging has been brought under control apparently but please bear in mind that apparently she was trapped in the car for about an hour after the collision in the injured state due to the very bad weather and road conditions up here.

We saw that she is able to move a bit more, but more or less involuntary movements. Her left arm, wrist are able to move, so are her legs and her neck and lower jaw now. She is breathing on her own now.

And when he appears to feel the pain, her heart rate and blood pressure increase, when the pain medicine is injected then her heart rate and blood pressure returns to normal. So at least there is still neural feedback and her system is able to alarm itself, able to sense and self-adjust the autonomic responses.

We can't know what effect the brain injury will have upon her life. Her vital signs are stable though. I just got off the phone with the hospital and they told me so.

How are we doing? Matthew is grieving horribly but in his own way. So is Krista. Krista is able to vocalize her emotions better, Matthew has an impulsive need to act out. The school and the hospital are all aware of these things and the kids will not be neglected.

And me? I'm a freaking basket case I think....I become totally absorbed in the tragedy if I'm left alone to think about it too long. I'm not eating right, I feel absolutely dreadful as if something so precious has been robbed from me, or killed off, I can't keep my mind straight, if I think about something or if I'm reminded about her in some little thing, I start to choke up and verge on losing self composition. Self control becomes quite hard.

If it weren't for the support of her family, I don't know what I would do.

I look at things about me....at the cookies she baked, the last dishes she washed, at her house robe, where she left the empty crate of baby oranges to be put in the recycling. I think about the last morning I kissed her bye for departure to work and her last electronic message to me which I received at work the morning of the collision. Then I begin to fear that these things may become monuments or memories instead of the normal daily things which I need her to be here for. I want to preserve every detail just as she left them so when she comes home, she will feel at home. I don't want her to leave me.

Then a part of me thinks the worst and wonders what if she never comes home? How can I positively say for certain? It's truly dreadful and a part of me wishes to be by her side, to share her fate if need be, if only to be close to her.

We all desperately need her here, me, the family, the kids....how does life switch from one thing to another in the blink of an eye? I shall never understand it.

Right now, time has been frozen solid for us. Our days are mere seconds to Yvonne in her state. Her life has been brought to a glacial pace and we have to be grateful that she still has a good heartbeat, she is breathing on her own and appears now to be able to sense and react internally to pain.

geo

Dear George,

I can't imagine how emotionally devastating this is for you and your family.  Speaking for myself as this guy on the Internet, there is a limit to what I can do for you in terms of consolation and support.  In addition to this forum, I urge you to seek help from people nearby who know how to help people in crises.  Besides family members, avail yourself of hospital case workers and clergy.  I have found that one of the things that helped me get through difficult times such as this was narrowing my time focus down to just one day.  As hard as it is George, don't think about tomorrow and yesterday.  Just focus on dealing with what you are managing today and take things one item at a time.   One of the worst things is not knowing what is going to happen and not having answers.  I can say from experience that everything works out for the best eventually, but it can take time.  Remember that and only focus on today's difficulties.


Rob

God bless you Geo, I know nothing, but it may just take some time. Some awful time for you, waiting and worrying, and for her, for her body and brain to heal. We will keep up our prayers for your household day by day, and we will keep them up before Him daily.

..well said rob..

..tim..

..sk..

I just woke from what you might call sleep. It's almost 7 am.

I went to bed around 1 am, awoke around 4 am and just had to call and know what was happening with her. Her condition remains unchanged.

I know this is absolutely horrible for her but it's killing me too. My life revolved around her. Without her here, it's as if my anchor is gone and I will have no reason to be. It's such an awful existence to be and to love but for one's soulmate to be torn from your side.

I'm a mess. :(

geo

Just came across this thread, my heart goes out to you and your family George.
I'll be keeping Yovonne and your family in prayer today.
God is in control of this, as he is in all things, comfort in that my friend.

Same here George.

We'll have the whole congregation pray for you and your family at Sunday services.

As one other member so well stated stated, avail yourself of clergy and other consultaton services. They are there to help you in this difficult time.

Phil - AC0OB

 George, this is the toughest time to go through. Every day that goes by will put you on an emotional roller coaster ride of what to expect. It might be hard to understand, but the wait might be easier if you prepare for the worst. That way, whatever happens, you have it covered. Just make sure you have plenty of family and friends around.

Closest thing Ive experienced to this was my oldest brother dying in an auto accident. I was 19 at the time. Its kind of hard to adjust when someone you grew up with and worked /lived with every day of your life is suddenly absent. I still have dreams he is sitting on the rocking chair in the living room and we are all talking as if nothing happened.

But then I think this life is so short, he just went where the millions of others have went before and where the rest of us are soon to follow. None of us can escape that fate, but time sure doesnt seem short when you are missing someone.

I pray Yvonne will snap out of this and that she is in good care.

George, this is terrible. I check several times a day for a message saying she has regained consciousness.

If you are a member of any church, I highly suggest you seek some support there. Or go to the chuch of a friend or relative if you don't have one. Pastors are trained to help people deal with things like this.

George - Just got internet back up.  Thank God that she is doing as well as she is.  I have worked too many incidents like this for 45 years.  Looked at the vehicle photos;  she was very fortunate to have lived through the initial collision.  From what I read in all the messages, she is responding appropriately to some stimuli and her vital signs are stable and she is beathing on her own.  This are a good things.  Almost lost my wife in 2008 due to a medical problem.  Am praying for you both.

George,
Just a year and a half ago, my sister-in-law was in an accident and trapped in the wreck like your Mrs. was. I swore she was a gonner, coma, the whole works. But today, she is getting around OK, has limited use of her left hand, but did get her drivers license back this last summer. God and time are great healers. Just hang in there, and have faith. The waiting is the worst part. You are in our prayers.
Norm K7NCR

Yvonne's sister in law has set up a blog which we'll all keep updated through phone updates from the hospital and visits.

http://yvonneonthemend.blogspot.com

Please pass the link on to anyone you wish to and please comment and wish her your best.

She's made some progress today and I'm feeling so relieved. The brain pressure measuring device could be removed today, they were removing it when I arrived to see her at noon.

Immediately I telephoned my mom in Brampton who then phoned Yvonne's parents in Grand Valley with the news! Her brain pressure and vitals are all very stable now, she doesn't need the respirator any longer and they can just let Yvonne get the rest to heal. She is still in a coma and at first I was horribly terrified out of my wits...all of the very worst dreams and thoughts invaded any bit of sleep I attempted.

I visited my brother and he is in the military reserve. I visited him today on the way back from St. Mikes. Part of his training happens to include battlefield wound diagnosis and treatment, and so we sat down together and we went over Yvonne's wounds as if she were a wounded soldier.

After going through this process, I can see that although her injuries looked awful and her coma, her fractures were so horrible to imagine, she's in a good position now to be able to heal well.

In my brother's words, her wounds and the appearance of her car make it look much worse but she's in a very good position to recover.

Krista only received cuts and bruises, no broken bones. But she is nervous and upset all the same. She will need understanding to help her through any feelings of guilt.

I updated the kids about Yvonne's condition now as well, and they feel better too. We all miss her terribly, the house is not the same without her. But now that she is off the ventilator and brain pressure is no longer required to be monitored, I think I'll finally get something that resembles sleep tonight.

Thank you and she will continue to need your prayers and hopes and positive thoughts. She is my life and I and the kids need her love and need her back in our lives.

geo

When I read your post, I burst into tears.

Maybe some day we'll look back to see how much of this grieving was not needed.....but not this day.

I wake up this morning, it is 6 am Sunday. The gas heater makes a flame that heats the room. I need the warmer night temperatures now because I sleep alone and this flame, the light from it, I can see it in my sleep. And it reminds me that I'm alone now. But at the same time not yet alone.

I'm waiting for Yvonne to come back to me. And then I phoned her nurse. Yvonne has had a bit of blood added to her system to improve her hemoglobin. Before the accident she was just about to start taking the iron pills for her health.

The nurse told me that Yvonne is still good strong vital signs, and a little bit more spontaneous movement from her limbs, which the nurse said is a good sign.

Then I started to think to myself "will we be having this conversation, repeating this same situation 10 years from now?" Then I start to shake and cry because I miss her so damned much, it's too hard for me to go to sleep or even think clearly. Nobody to talk to at this time of the morning in this room, I sit and struggle alone with this fear - alone. No Yvonne to calm me and talk to me. I have to sit and write this out. These are the very things which are torturing me right now.

When I had worries, fears, I could always count on Yvonne to help me understand things and put things into a better perspective. Without her guidance, I stumble in my mind and find it hard to remain in composure of myself. I'm always a worrier by nature and her absence only magnifies and amplifies my weaknesses which she so gracefully balanced against.

I wish I had an answer as to when I might start to expect her consciousness to return. But I don't have an answer, I don't even have a clue. Nobody does, that's the problem of course. And now that I need her the most, I have to try to stay in good health and look after myself for the day she awakens and can finally come home. How will I survive if it is a very long time until then? I don't think I can handle it because how I miss Yvonne constantly comes to my mind and I feel like I will fall apart.

Today we will go and visit her. I have been to the hospital for 4 days in a row now. Yvonne is making healing, making progress. She belongs here, she is needed here and loved here. Everything in the house cries out for her touch.

A part of me wonders and fears whether this house will ever be a home to her ever again, or will end up being a museum to her. I cannot shut that part off because it is attached to missing her.

This week at work, it will be the hardest time of my life. Work hours and distance will prevent me from visiting her all week. It won't be until the weekend that I can sit with her.

It is so peaceful to sit with her, to hold her hand and look at her. I feel connected to her that way, I feel the warmth of her hand and I can gaze at her face, remember her beautiful smile and how she would light my heart every minute.

Thank you. Please keep us in your thoughts. My thoughts are driving my crazy at these dark, lonely times when I awaken to the sound of emptiness.

geo

Hi

She's made a bit more progress today. But now my time will be totally consumed and I might not have time to post to this thread.

Please see the blog created by Yvonne's sister in law Julie:

http://yvonneonthemend.blogspot.com/

It's updated daily about her condition, updated with input from all of us. Please share the blog with others, post to it, offer your hopes and prayers.

Thank you for your friendship and support.
I'm feeling rather wiped.
73s
geo
VE3GZB

Geo,
Thanks for the link. It will be amazing what happens in the days ahead. The human body can heal and repair, given time. I'll keep her in my prayers. I'll be finding out first-hand, about family emergencies, as he is declining and decisions have to be made about hospice.

Fred

I posted an update on the blog, at

http://yvonneonthemend.blogspot.com/2010/02/day-six.html (http://yvonneonthemend.blogspot.com/2010/02/day-six.html)

I phoned the hospital this morning. Yvonne had a good sleep last night, well rested. That's good because that's what my little angel needs.

I know - over the last 5 days I got maybe 15 hours sleep in total. Sister in law's knowledge of herbal stuff helped me to actually get sleep last night.

This morning Yvonne goes in for surgery to better fix her right arm which was so hurt.

I only learned last night that the emergency surgery she received the day of the accident lasted for 9 hours! EEK! Wow! My poor angel!

Please keep her in your thoughts and in your prayers every day, please share your prayers with the family on the blog so she can return to us soon!

And if anyone knows the e-mail address, or can contact NL7QC in Rice Lake, WI, can you apologize to him from me for not sending him a QSL card? I was going to, then other things got in the way.

Thank you,
geo

Sometimes we get so close to a tragedy, we lose sight of how we can work to help. So I had a bit of a eureka moment at work today about how to help Yvonne.

While at work, talking to my boss whose a brain cancer survivor, his wife who was a nurse in Denmark and has seen people come out of comas and putting ideas from Helen Keller together, it hit me.

When we visit Yvonne, now is the time to start to use the one sense she has right now - touch - for tickling her memory for familiar feelings, words, signs and thoughts.

Simply put, when I would come home from work, we would hug. Then I'd spell out on her back "I L Y". And she would do the same.

So why don't we incorporate this into our visits, just on her stomach or her right arm!

I've already spoken to her parents, her sister, brother and sister in law Julie and we're all on the same page with this one, I've let my mom know too.

I'm calling this Operation Bring-Yvonne-Home, and we're not gonna stop until she's home safe and sound, no matter what it takes.

I struggled to figure out why I was so damned depressed and besides the obvious reasons, it hit me - I felt like a damned spectator instead of a participant! This is the time Yvonne needs us to participate in her recovery even if it's just by spelling a familiar short phrase on her skin.

I bounced the idea off of my boss and he said absolutely! The brain DOES heal itself, he is living proof (brain tumor the size of an Orange messed with his memory for a long time until he was found collapsed on the bathroom floor), it does sprout new connections, and these connections need stimulation to grow!

Tomorrow I have 1/2 day off, I will go with Yvonne's parents at noon to see her and I'm starting her regime of rehab right away, even if she's still in a coma. There's no better time to start than the present.

I feel a lot better already, but I admit I'm kicking myself because the answer was in front of me all the time - I was just so distracted by the shock and pain, I thought I was going to lose her forever. I thought I was going to be a victim.

Now I know better - I'm going to be part of the solution!

Yvonne had surgery today on her right arm and according to the nurse, she came through "with flying colours"! Her vitals are strong. She's still in a coma though.

geo

Yvonne has a long recovery ahead of her, it's only been one week and she's still making baby steps but all in the right direction.

The family maintains a blog on her recovery. Please comfort the family and send your prayers. Keep Yvonne in your hearts and in your prayers.

http://yvonneonthemend.blogspot.com/

73s from geo + Yvonne's kids.

Please keep checking the blog for updates and please keep her in your prayers. She's working hard, making small steps towards regaining independence and consciousness.

Here's a picture of her from nov 2007 when we were playing with a webcam we bought. She looks so happy!

(http://99.239.154.87/YandG.jpg)

I miss her so much.

http://yvonneonthemend.blogspot.com/

73s, geo, VE3GZB, temporarily silent until my sweetheart returns to me. I just don't feel like enjoying something while she's away and hurting, it doesn't feel right.

Hang in there George.

I know all too well how tough it is to go through something like this.

But she is here, healing and all of that is good. Our prayers and thoughts are with all of you OM

Carl

?KPD

I'll visit the hospital tomorrow. She's back on the ventilator unfortunately.

EEG results show no seizures but they need to talk to me more about these results tomorrow. I don't like the sound of that.

A cute pic of Yvonne at age 2, sweet deaf little girl.

Geo,

  We are all pulling for Yvonne's recovery, and for you to get her back home.

I wanted you to know that your posts have really touched me, and at times I broke into tears while reading them. You have great writing talent that made me feel your pain and desperation.

Many folks go through their whole lives without really loving, or being loved. No matter what the outcome, you are a lucky man since you my friend know first hand the joy of a wonderful loving relationship.

All The Best,
Jim
WD5JKO

 

Ventillators and breathing machines are great.

A couple summers ago my mother (89) had pancreatitus and had to be put on the ventillator.

She recovered admirably and when I called the other day, she was painting the bathroom. :D

She is now 91. :o

So keep the faith.

Yvonne needs you for support.

BTW, this story has hit me hard; my wife's middle name is Yvonne.


Phil - AC0OP

 

Phil - AC0OP : Wow!! Yea, you always hear about this kind of stuff, then it happens in your life and nothing in the world can prepare you for it!

WD5JKO - I don't want her love and my feelings to turn into a monument though....what has happened to her is the most un-natural, cruel and heartless thing that can happen to a human being and to a family. But thank you all the same. Yes when the issue moves me, I can enjoy writing, but I could never do it for money. Too passionless.

Yvonne's EEG results came in. He said it. "Normal and no seizures".

I was stunned and I asked him to repeat it. "Normal and no seizures".

Then I repeated it back to him to make sure I heard it correctly and he said yes.

My GOD, I could have kissed his feet at that point!!!! I was so flooded with happiness that she has a normal EEG!

When I arrived and they let me in for visiting, they were just getting her set up. And as opposed to before when she exhibited no gag reflex, this time she did! And during the gag reflex she opened her eyes briefly, for about 4 seconds! I tried to make contact with her but I don't know if she saw me.

Then later while I was just sitting with her and holding her hand, spelling the kids names, my name and her name on her stomach, I noticed REM beneath her eyelids several times!

I asked the neurosurgeon about this. He can only give a non-committal answer to me, but he made his non-committal answer in such a way that reinforced that she could be dreaming while in a coma!

I saw another patient, a 30 year old young woman with her mother. The 30 year old was in a coma due to some brain lesion or something. She fell into a coma and her vital signs were falling. Her heart rate was stumbling and the doctors explained to the mother that if her daughter continues, she might not make it and perhaps funeral plans might be necessary.

The mother didn't give up, she told the doctors to not give up.

I saw the young woman. She did wake out of her coma and she was able to understand my questions, though she did not answer verbally.

I'm going there tomorrow too, but not for all day as I did today. I have to get ready for work tomorrow night.

I won't lie about my emotions. I am scared without her and scared of losing her to this tragedy. Sometimes the fear rises up in me like rabid squirrels and I feel like I'm going nuts!

I'm glad for the normal EEG results. Sounds like she is a tough one and not giving up at all. Prayer changes things. I really believe it.

I was in the hospital by her side for nearly 5 hours yesterday.

I'm going again today. I spelled all of our names on her stomach or arm, whichever made more sense to spell on.

And in case a fragment of her hearing has returned, I spoke to her softly, telling her about the things the kids are doing, telling her that Matthew needs her to come back because without her he's not focusing on his homework, and Krista needs her to come back too.

Me too, I need her to come back. Many more things I did tell her. I held her left hand and kissed her forehead. She responded to that.

God, how fragile is life! People live every day and don't think about these things and then suddenly WHAM it's upon you and there's no turning back. We really need, as a society and as a species, to learn to cherish the little things more and not fuss so much over things that don't really matter.

I'm still waking during the night time, but falling back to sleep isn't as hard as it was. I still need sedatives to help me sleep.

Mostly we all still need many heartfelt, enduring prayers until she's out of the woods and comes back to consciousness.

Please share your hope with the family (she has family and friends in Europe as well as in North America), share your prayers and keep her in your heart when you pray today.

http://yvonneonthemend.blogspot.com/

73s, temporarily silent key until she returns, geo, VE3GZB