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Title: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N3DRB The Derb on June 07, 2010, 10:54:08 AM
I just wanted to let everyone know what is happening with Tim right now.....

We went to Roanoke last Friday for his consult with a new radiology oncologist. We were in the waiting room, and his name was called to go back for his appointment. As he was in the process of standing up, he started screaming in pain and fell to the floor. His ankle had broken in 3 places. He was taken by ambulance across the street to their hospital, where he was admitted and had surgery Friday night to repair the break. They put in a plate and some screws, and the next day his surgeon told him he has osteoporosis from the steroids he has been taking for the last 4 years. Needless to say the cancer appointment got put on hold.

He will be in the hospital there for at least a week, maybe even 2, and then they want to send him to some sort of nursing rehab facility; where, they don`t yet know. He may not be able to come home for 3 months.

I am not going to post constant updates here, so anyone who wants his contact info can pm him or post on his blog and I will gladly get you that info.

Tim`s wife Glo


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: w3jn on June 07, 2010, 11:03:35 AM
Aw, that's a real kick in the teeth...

Glo, give him my very best, and hopes that he gets thru this challenge like he did the last!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ka3zlr on June 07, 2010, 11:37:41 AM
Wow hang in there Derb..

73

Jack.



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: WBear2GCR on June 07, 2010, 11:51:10 AM

Oh geez... what can anyone say... life is just not fair.  :-[

I want Derb to get home, get well and get that Big Ray on the air.

                       _-_-



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: k4kyv on June 07, 2010, 12:25:29 PM
What worries me the most is that treatment for the brain cancer recurrence, which he described as "fast growing", keeps getting delayed by one obstacle after another.   :(



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KM1H on June 07, 2010, 12:46:24 PM
Stabilize the break, plenty of painkillers and roll him right into the cancer work.

Those docs sound like all they care about is covering their asses.

Carl


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W3GMS on June 07, 2010, 01:07:39 PM
Glo,
Thanks for letting us know Derb's situation.  I will check the blog often to keep updated on his progress and naturally we all hope for the very best. 

I am curious if the BC rig got moved down from Fred's location?

Take good care of yourself so you can take care of Derb.  I know you will.

Hang in....

Joe, W3GMS 
   


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: w4bfs on June 07, 2010, 01:10:20 PM

Oh geez... what can anyone say... life is just not fair.  :-[

I want Derb to get home, get well and get that Big Ray on the air.

                       _-_-




hear hear ... Bear sez it all ... get well soon ...John


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KB2WIG on June 07, 2010, 01:17:34 PM
Crap.


Get better.



klc


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KA0HCP on June 07, 2010, 02:30:13 PM
Best wishes for a speedy recovery!!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W9GT on June 07, 2010, 02:31:52 PM
Very sorry to hear of this!  Get Well quick Derb!

73,  Jack, W9GT


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5UJ on June 07, 2010, 03:04:36 PM
I second all the comments get well soon Derb

rob


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KX5JT on June 07, 2010, 03:08:18 PM
Let's look at this as minor setback for a MAJOR Comeback!

Get well soon Derb! We're all pulling for you!

JT


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N2udf on June 07, 2010, 04:37:22 PM
Best wishes for a speedy recovery.His positive attitude will get him through.Hang in there......Lee,N2udf.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Ed/KB1HYS on June 07, 2010, 05:59:45 PM
here's hoping for the best.  I hope they DON"T wait to kill the cancer. 

Good Luck OM!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Carl WA1KPD on June 07, 2010, 06:26:30 PM
Good luck there Derb. Thoughts and prayers are with you .


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5WLF on June 07, 2010, 06:37:18 PM
Damn the bad luck. Get well quick, Derb. We're all pulling for you.

ldb
K5WLF


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: WA3VJB on June 07, 2010, 07:17:06 PM
Derb as you're layin' there, it might help to think about happier times -- like the fun we had out at Dobbins Island, hanging out with the radios, camping with a generator and lotsa good food.

Here's hoping you'll recuperate real soon.



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K1JJ on June 07, 2010, 07:21:18 PM
Hope you heal quickly, Derb.  You've got the best human medical care in the galaxy, OM... ;)

T


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: k4kyv on June 07, 2010, 09:30:00 PM
Something that might work wonders for his recovery would be if he found the RAYtheon moved to his QTH, ready to set up in his station, the day he returned home.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ke7trp on June 07, 2010, 11:15:24 PM
Wow..  I was sitting here today bored out of my mind trying to recover from a horrible cold and I thought about Derb twice. I was wondering where he was and why there where no posts from him.  Now I read this. 

Let him know we are all thinking about his speedy recovery!


Clark


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Superhet66 on June 08, 2010, 01:17:11 AM
All the above and then some OM. Get in, get it done and get home man.
Take care of yourself also Glo.
                                                          DJ


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W3RSW on June 08, 2010, 07:49:23 AM
I'm so very sorry to hear this Glo.
The very best to you Derbmeister.
You're the standard candle in my mind when it comes to dealing with life's tougher dealings.

Rick


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: The Slab Bacon on June 08, 2010, 08:22:33 AM
Gloria,
         give Timmy my best, and tell him to get well and get his a$$ out of there.
Call me on the telefonium if there is anything I can do.
     
                                                                             Frank


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W1IA on June 08, 2010, 09:42:26 AM
..please get better Derb! :'(

Brent W1IA



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: wa2dtw on June 08, 2010, 11:59:33 AM
Wishing Derb the very best!   Hope he recovers and gets home quickly.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ke7trp on June 08, 2010, 12:17:11 PM
I feel like we should send him a card or something to the hospital.  Does anyone have any ideas?   I would be happy to shell out the bucks.

C


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Steve - WB3HUZ on June 08, 2010, 03:42:20 PM
From his blog

Quote
This is Gloria, Tim`s wife, writing just to let everyone know that he has been admitted to the hospital in Roanoke, VA.

and

Quote
fresh medical team to look at me and decide what the best course of action is -

http://www.carilionclinic.org/Carilion/Department+of+Radiology



From the Carilion Clinic web site I get these addeesses.

for mail

P.O. Box 13367
Roanoke, VA 24033


for deliveries

1906 Belleview Ave.
Roanoke, VA 24014


And then there's this on Derb's Blog.


Quote
He would really appreciate hearing from his friends. Anyone who wants his address and phone number can email this address:

n3drb@comcast.net

I don`t know if it would be a good idea or not to post his contact  info here, so just email and let me know who you are and I`ll give you the info.







Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N3DRB The Derb on June 08, 2010, 05:32:53 PM
Hi guys, it`s Glo again.  Thanks for all the get well wishes for Tim. I dec ided to go ahed and post his contact info. It`s not like he`s in the Witness Protection Program or anything. :)

And the addy Steve posted up above might get your mail to him, but I think this address will work better:

Timothy West c/o Carilion Roanoke Memorial Hospital
Room # 1062
Belleview at Jefferson Street
Roanoke VA 24014
attn: Patient Services

His phone number direct to his room is: 1-540-266-5923

He is pretty bummed out right now and it would cheer him up a lot if he heard from any/all of you guys!  :)


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5UJ on June 08, 2010, 05:46:55 PM
FYI this came out in the paper today FWIW:

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703303904575292691538647642.html


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N3DRB The Derb on June 09, 2010, 07:31:24 AM
Ok, I said I wasn`t going to do a lot of updates here, but this news is just too damn good NOT to share!!!  :D

Yesterday afternoon, Tim`s doc told him that after reviewing his new MRI films, the spot on his brain that the docs here thought was new cancer growth is NOT cancer after all, but it is necrosis, or dead brain tissue, from all the treatments he`s had in the past. While dead brain tissue certainly isn`t a good thing, it`s a whole heck of a lot better than new cancer growing, and Tim was very relieved to hear the news. Turns out that the MRI they have in Roanoke is more advanced than the one they have here in Martinsburg, and the doc said it`s like looking at an MRI in HD. The old films weren`t distinguishable as not being cancer, so the mistake was understandable, but still very troubling for us, never the less.....
From now on, whenever Tim needs an MRI, we`ll make the 3 hour trip to Roanoke.
He still has some issues with seizure activity and the use of his left hand, (which has diminished greatly since his recent seizure), so the docs are getting together today and deciding on a course of treatment for those things.
So things are looking up, it seems.  Finally.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: VE3GZB on June 09, 2010, 08:29:14 AM
There's no news like good news - and you must both be jumping up and down for joy! :)

73s
geo
VE3GZB


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: flintstone mop on June 09, 2010, 09:16:57 AM
Good newz indeed. HD MRI, saved the day.
Could someone PM me GLO's email address? I didn't save her address in my contacts in Yahoo mail when we were making happy BD wishes.
Something is brewing!!!!!!!!

TNX

Fred


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W3GMS on June 09, 2010, 10:15:49 AM
I could not have received better news!  That's fantastic....
Best Wishes,
Joe, W3GMS     


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N8LGU on June 09, 2010, 10:38:27 AM
That news is FANTASTIC! I had been reading all the bad news this morning from the BP spill to the mid-east turmoil. Then while feeling really down I started reading the news about Derb. I was feeling lower as I read. Then. the post about the findings that the spot was just necrosis and not cancer! That erased all the bad news of the day. What great news! Wow!  :)


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ke7trp on June 09, 2010, 10:40:46 AM
Very good news!

C


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KE6DF on June 09, 2010, 10:46:52 AM
Great news


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Ed/KB1HYS on June 09, 2010, 10:53:37 AM
YES!  that's some good news!  About time too!



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W1AEX on June 09, 2010, 11:28:24 AM
That's great news Tim and Glo!

:O)


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KB2WIG on June 09, 2010, 12:02:05 PM
Well, its about time.... ..


 What cha gotta do is get some steel pipe, a come-along and an engine lift.........................



klc


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: NE4AM on June 09, 2010, 12:39:09 PM
That news made my day,  I can just imagine how you and Glo feel!

73 - Dave


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5UJ on June 09, 2010, 12:42:07 PM
This is excellent.  Time to start moving the Raytheon rig again.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KA0HCP on June 09, 2010, 01:04:47 PM
Huzzah!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K1JJ on June 09, 2010, 02:07:06 PM
Great news, OM!!

Nothing like a false alarm to make us appreciate the good things we presently have.

Fred said, "Something is brewing."   Could that be the Uncle Ray project?  ;D ;D

T


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: wa2dtw on June 09, 2010, 02:16:03 PM
Very pleased to hear the good news!
73
Steve WA2DTW


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ka3zlr on June 09, 2010, 02:20:45 PM
Far out you kids have been through the mill that was close...

All the best..... :)

73

Jack.



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KX5JT on June 09, 2010, 04:14:18 PM
 8)  ;D


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Superhet66 on June 09, 2010, 04:15:50 PM
Who saw that coming!? Holi Mojo Batman...... Awesome!  ;D
                                                                                                                                                                                                 D.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: WA3VJB on June 09, 2010, 05:00:54 PM

Okay I'm trying to keep track of the plot developments here.

So let me get this right, Derb broke his ankle, that's bad, right ?

NO THAT's GOOD

Huh?

Well, if he hadn't a broke his ankle we wouldn't know the cancer's remissed.

That's good ?

THAT'S WAY GOOD


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W1ATR on June 09, 2010, 06:14:59 PM
Wow that's awesome news. Get well soon man.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: k4kyv on June 09, 2010, 07:29:16 PM
Fantastic news.  Made my day... Let's just hope that the diagnosis is the correct one this time.  And be thankful they didn't discover the result after blasting another hole through the skull.

Time for a collective cheer!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Opcom on June 09, 2010, 09:27:20 PM
dang.. I got some dead brain cells too, from a stroke. Hooray it's not cancer!! We're pulling for you.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: David, K3TUE on June 09, 2010, 10:58:19 PM
Get well soon.
And yeah, no cancer!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W9GT on June 10, 2010, 08:38:30 AM
Great news!  Get well soon Derb.  We're looking forward to hearing you strapping away with Uncle Ray very soon!

73.  Jack, W9GT


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KB5MD on June 10, 2010, 08:40:46 AM
YIPPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEeeeeee!!!! :o  :o  That's fantastic!!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: The Slab Bacon on June 10, 2010, 08:53:49 AM
I got a grip on yo lip brotha man!! Next time I see you, you be wavin yo hand in the breeze!! 8)  8)


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Steve - WB3HUZ on June 10, 2010, 09:11:42 AM
Great news! I'm very glad they determined what the spot on the MRI was BEFORE they decided to cut you again!  Get well soon.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Ralph W3GL on June 10, 2010, 11:07:45 AM



       Hey man, ya still gotta drop those excess LBS !!!

       Great news re the MRI though. 

       Go home soon & get airactive...



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5WLF on June 10, 2010, 01:12:19 PM
Yeeee-HAAAA!!!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: WA2TTP Steve on June 10, 2010, 06:33:17 PM
Great news! Now you can go back to planning the RAY move.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Jeff W9GY on June 10, 2010, 06:39:07 PM
Ah man good newz, Derb !!!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Fred k2dx on June 10, 2010, 06:51:36 PM
Glad to hear good news Derb. Get well soon.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: DMOD on June 10, 2010, 09:04:04 PM
Derb, you sounded great on the phone the other day.

I am so glad it wasn't what was orginally thought to be.

Keep up the good work!


Phil - AC0OB


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W2PFY on June 11, 2010, 10:55:25 AM
I'm yanking for ya Derb! Get well soon and get back home ;D ;D


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: The Slab Bacon on June 16, 2010, 01:12:57 PM
I just got off of the telefonium with him in the horsepistol. He seems in quite good spirits and gave me some fantastic news. He has told me that his cancer doctor has officially declared his cancer in remission!!

He now has to deal with the side effects of all of the meds that he has been on for the last 4 years. The biggest one is the osteoporosis from all of the steroids he has been on. With his ankle shattered he may still end up being in there for a few months till it heals.

He has told me that they are allready working on refiguring his meds to deal with this.

The BJB WILL ride again! ! 


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ka3zlr on June 16, 2010, 02:53:21 PM
YEAH for the Derbison.... :) :) :) that's great news....awesum...

73

Jack.



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Ed/KB1HYS on June 16, 2010, 06:09:10 PM
Waa HOOO!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Superhet66 on June 16, 2010, 06:21:44 PM
Well awwright  :)

Now get well and get home man.   8)
                                          
                                                     D.
                                                   KC2YOI


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5UJ on June 16, 2010, 10:31:37 PM
excellent.  prayers answered  :D


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5WLF on June 16, 2010, 11:13:10 PM
Mighty fine news, Derb. Looking forward to having you back with us here, and on the air, real soon.

ldb
K5WLF


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ke7trp on June 19, 2010, 07:43:14 PM
Does anyone have the address and room number?  I want to send him a huge stack of 30s,40s and 50s qst's and other books.

C


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N5RLR on June 21, 2010, 12:39:49 AM
Got to this thread late, what with things going on here.  Good to hear that the cancer is in remission; but it's a bummer about the broken ankle.

All the best for a speedy recovery, Tim.  ;)


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N3DRB The Derb on July 03, 2010, 09:29:44 AM
Hi everyone! Glo here again....

I figured I`m somewhat past due for an update on Tim, so here goes.......

Tim is now back in Charles Town, only 10 minutes from here in a nursing/rehab home called Willow Tree Manor. We all thought the move back to his hometown would lift his spirits, and it did, but only at first. He has been here for 2 weeks now, and he is very depressed because he still is unable to stand on his own. Pretty much any strength he did possess went right out the window in the 2 weeks following surgery, and now he can only get out of bed and into a wheelchair with  the aid of sliding board transfers or a special lift and sling. On the bright side, however, he has lost about 30 lbs.!  YEAY!!!!  :D

He has no access to a computer (and won`t until he comes home), so I figured I would throw this out there for all of you guys who wanted to "surprise" him.....  he has been VERY depressed not only by his situation, but by his surroundings, since the home he is in is primarily a nursing home filled with some very sad looking people. He is not progressing the way that his PT`s are hoping he would be by now, and after I visited him yesterday, he phoned me and had a breakdown (one of many), pretty much consisting of why me, I want to go home,, and some other whinings which I have no answer for now or in the entire month since this has happened.

Long story short, we had to have a little coming to Jesus conversation (also had to reach through the phone and slap him upside the head alittle), in which I told him that it`s a BROKEN LEG, for God`s sake, and it will HEAL. It is NOT the end of the world, quit acting like it is. Basically, if he wants OUT of where he is, he has to do some work and be able to get up and about so I can take care of him better when he does get here.

So this is where the surprise comes in.....I know everyone wanted him to be "surprised" when he got home, but I am thinking maybe it`s time he was told about it. It might give him a little inspiration to be more determined to get himself progressed and get out of there. I will still take the video camera over there and film him when he finds out, and I also think he will be just as "surprised" as if he came home to it.

So I kinda want to take a vote, and see what you all think.  :)

I won`t say a word about it to him until I hear from you guys.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ka3zlr on July 03, 2010, 10:33:45 AM
Hi Glo,

 As for the slow healing I attribute Age as a Factor there, older we get the slower things happen I remember when the doc told my wife and I about my situation felt like the floor dropping out from under me like on a ride at the park I got kinda bummed out there for awhile But Time is a Great healer and it is Tuff Dealing with it till it passes.

 Sometimes like you said though a good knock on the noggen is in order I didn't wanna get up either but ya have to...ya gotta move man.

 I don't know what to tell you as far as your question, I would give it a bit more time I guess I think an see if it passes my Diana kept after me everyday I don't know how she managed amazed me...an Today I'm up an about this is year number two we're in.

You two are in our prayers here.

All the best

Jack.



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: w3jn on July 03, 2010, 11:04:56 AM
I say tell him.  That whole episode was really a disappointment to him, and I can see having the xmitter there would be a big motivation to get his ass in gear and raise his spirits.  Gives him an even bigger target to shoot for!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KE6DF on July 03, 2010, 12:04:25 PM
I'd say tell him he can come home as soon as he can get himself back and forth to the bathroom on his own.

That might get him motivated to work harder with the PTs.

My dad, in his late 80's injured himself, and there was talk of sending him to a nursing home.

My mom was a small woman, and no way she sould lift him out of bed.

But, the talk of the nursing home got him motivated, and he had them rig a trapeeze bar thing over his bed so he could pull himself up, and then with a walker he could get back and forth to the john on his own.

He recovered and lived at home another 5 years.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: k4kyv on July 03, 2010, 12:11:59 PM
Make a video of the transmitter sitting where it is, and tell him you have a "surprise" for him.  Then, saying nothing else, show him the video.

If he has a laptop, why can't he use it at the rehab place, even if there is no internet access? Record and save some stuff off the net and at least he can view it.

I was laid up for about 3 weeks back in December with a severe hip problem, and per doctors orders my mobility was restricted.  Couldn't climb the stairs to where the computer is or hobble out to the shack.  My wife bought me a laptop as an early Xmas gift, and since we already had a wireless connection, that kept me sane after I was thoroughly saturated with reading, watching TV (that didn't take long) and listening to the broadcast radio.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N3DRB The Derb on July 03, 2010, 02:54:10 PM

[/quote]
I say tell him.  That whole episode was really a disappointment to him, and I can see having the xmitter there would be a big motivation to get his ass in gear and raise his spirits.  Gives him an even bigger target to shoot for!

Yeah, Johnny, that`s what I`m hoping for, to get him motivated again.


I like the trapeze bar overhead thing as well, maybe that can be an option. I will mention it to his PT people.

Make a video of the transmitter sitting where it is, and tell him you have a "surprise" for him.  Then, saying nothing else, show him the video.

If he has a laptop, why can't he use it at the rehab place, even if there is no internet access? Record and save some stuff off the net and at least he can view it.

I was laid up for about 3 weeks back in December with a severe hip problem, and per doctors orders my mobility was restricted.  Couldn't climb the stairs to where the computer is or hobble out to the shack.  My wife bought me a laptop as an early Xmas gift, and since we already had a wireless connection, that kept me sane after I was thoroughly saturated with reading, watching TV (that didn't take long) and listening to the broadcast radio.
We don`t have a laptop, Don, believe it or not.  Tim has always declared we had no need for such a thing (just like he once swore we had no need for one of those modern new-fangled cellular telephones, lol) so we never bought one. I can`t tell you how many times it would have come in handy, though, and now he is probably regretting that decision.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ka3zlr on July 03, 2010, 03:31:43 PM
It's just No Fun without him man...I say Dog Pile on the Derb we should drive down an pay Him an AM style visit... :D Everybody act like we're gona pile up on him an watch his face..LOL :D

Can we call him on the twisted pair..?

73

Jack.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: The Slab Bacon on July 03, 2010, 04:46:53 PM
I say tell him.  That whole episode was really a disappointment to him, and I can see having the xmitter there would be a big motivation to get his ass in gear and raise his spirits.  Gives him an even bigger target to shoot for!

Glo,
      Let me know when he comes home and is up for some company. Situations have changed somewhat around here freeing up more of my time, and I'm no longet tethered to this house. I will come up there and get it set up and running for him!!

                                                                                                  frank


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5UJ on July 03, 2010, 04:59:58 PM
These are hard lessons.  It's easy to teach someone how a transmitter works but it is a lot harder to learn how to deal with tragedy.  There is no class we can sign up for, so the only way we can learn is by getting through something ourselves.  That means everyone has different experiences and knowledge.  

I perform volunteer work at a nursing home and have had some experience with them over the years in caring for my parents.  There are good ones and bad ones.  I've seen ones where I wouldn't mind living in them myself and I've seen ones where I'd about prefer someone shoot me instead of putting me in them.   Long term care is a ticking bomb in this country because the industry needs some changes; it isn't getting funded well, but the number of people needing it is going to explode in growth in the next 30 years.   Everyone wants to think they'll avoid going to a nursing home but do yourselves a favor and get a LTC insurance policy, especially if you have children.  

I've had hard times but not like Derb.  Only advice I can give is he should take things one day at a time and not rush his recovery.   He shouldn't go home until he is truly capable of continuing his rehab at home, otherwise he might wind up back in the care center.   That is the hardest thing because it takes a hell of a lot of patience.  The human body isn't always this speedy thing so some healing is slow and hurrying it can do harm.  If he's about to leave show him the rig but if he's looking at being in there another month or two showing it to him now may just frustrate him and piss him off, but you know him better than me.

BTW if you get him a computer he's probly gg to see all this anyway so the decision becomes a moot point.

This is a hard thing to hang on you but my experience has been the best thing for care center residents is frequent visits from family.  I mean once or twice a day if possible.  That frequent.  And, bring food.   The biggest single indicator of care center quality is the quality of the food served.  (Always eat a meal when evaluating a place.)  It varies from being really good in the best places to being almost inedible in the bad ones, but it is impossible for everyone to get all of the special things they like.  That's where family come in.  I can't tell you how many elderly are abandoned by children who can't deal with going to the nursing home (a.k.a. long term care center) and fool themselves into believing the staff can provide all the care.  That's total b.s.   Staff are stretched very thinly and can only provide medical and physical care; not emotional care and love.  Those last two are the most important and have to come from family.   While Derb isn't elderly, he probably likes to eat some foods they don't provide.  Also, if staff see you frequently (I hate to admit this) they will change their care level--yes, if you show up often they notice and step up their attentiveness because they are human like everyone else and are influenced to some extent by your actions.  

Sorry for the buzzard transmission but I hope some of this helps  ;)

Rob


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5WLF on July 03, 2010, 07:08:08 PM
Glo,

I vote to tell him. He's had a pile of bad things happen and it's easy to see how he could get despondent and disheartened. Letting him know that 'Ray' is there could be just what it takes to get him back to his usual smilin' self.

Always remember that my thoughts and prayers are with both of you.

All the best,
Larry
K5WLF
 


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: David, K3TUE on July 03, 2010, 07:29:26 PM
Quote from: The Slab Bacon link=topic=24350.msg182789#msg182789
Glo,
      Let me know when he comes home and is up for some company. Situations have changed somewhat around here freeing up more of my time, and I'm no longet tethered to this house. I will come up there and get it set up and running for him!!

                                                                                                  frank

Frank,
If you need a hand, let me know.
I might be off/free/able to help.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KB2WIG on July 03, 2010, 10:34:18 PM
I think Jack's got the best idea

....  INTERVENTION ....

pile on and often.  Being stuck in bed without any visitors is gots to be the pits. (family can't be there all the time, and different peps keep things from becoming stale)

 Don't tell him. Keeping the transmitter as a carrot for his return home may be helpfull. Something like 'the transmitter is coming and you have to be there by ___ "

FWIW,
KLC



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W1IA on July 03, 2010, 10:58:44 PM
Glo,
Keep the faith and please let him know he is missed and loved.
I wish I were closer as I understand what he is going through. I pray for you and wish the best.

Brent W1IA


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N3DRB The Derb on July 05, 2010, 01:59:25 PM
I got a call from Tim`s rehab home at 3 a.m. telling me they had called an ambulance for him and he had gone to the local hospital after complaining of a terrible headache and pressure on the right side of his head. He was then transferred to City Hospital in Martinsburg so they could do a CT scan of his head, and there they determined that he appears to have some fluid on his brain and his cancer appears to have returned. Mind you, this is the same hospital that told Tim his cancer had returned in April, and resulted in the trip to Roanoke where he fell and broke his leg and was told by the docs down there that he does NOT have regrowth and that his cancer is in remission. Something is obviously wrong with him, but I don`t trust them to diagnose him properly. Then they tell me that they are in the process of trying to get him shipped out to Georgetown University Hospital again, a place that Tim despises. So I spoke with the doc at City, and asked that he be transferred back down to Roanoke, and that`s what they did. He should have just gotten there in the last hour or so. I will be heading down either today or tomorrow morning, and I will find out more then.

I also want everyone to know I told him about Uncle Ray this morning. No fanfare, didn`t get to record anything, just wanted to let him know in case things took a turn for the worse and he might not be in any shape to hear it later. I just wanted him to know it was here and that everyone wanted to surprise him with it, but I felt he needed a pick-me-up, so I was telling him now. And let me tell you, his eyes got wide, and he definitely perked up at that news!!!! He was pretty much speechless, and any of you who know Tim at all know how rare that is!!!! LOL
He said his morale just got lifted to  a new level hearing that, and that`s what I was hoping for. He said he can`t wait to get back home to see it and use it, so I`m keeping my fingers crossed that day comes sooner rather than later...

On a really nasty side note, my neighbor from across the street just came over and told me that our local vet has just today gotten another case of what appears to be intentional poisoning (the third one now) from our neighborhood, and she is warning everyone to be on the lookout. These are all animals that are kept in their own fenced in backyards, not roaming on anyone else`s property. For some time now there has been suspicion that someone here has been shooting cats with a pellet gun, as several of those have shown up at the vet`s as well. Just what I need to hear right before I go out of town for a few days.  They are going to try and offer a reward for info leading to arrest of the person doing it, but I will be amazed if anything comes of it.

I`ll let you all know what I find out about Tim.

Glo


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5UJ on July 05, 2010, 03:02:10 PM
Sounds like the news had the desired positive effect--excellent  ;D

I sure wish there were a way to get him to a hospital that's really good:  Mayo Clinic, Memorial Sloan-Kettering in NY or Johns Hopkins in Baltimore.   Those are some of the best cancer hospitals in the country.



Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: flintstone mop on July 06, 2010, 01:53:17 AM
I'm following this thread from our HOT vacation spot in the Philippines. And wondering what the heck is going on with TIM?? This continual roller-coaster event.
Does the poor guy have a return of cancer or not?? WOW, I would be pretty low myself.

Hopefully there is a good side to this.

Fred


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: WA3VJB on July 06, 2010, 08:35:52 AM
Quote
And let me tell you, his eyes got wide, and he definitely perked up at that news!!!! He was pretty much speechless, and any of you who know Tim at all know how rare that is!!!! LOL

Keep us posted, Glo, good and bad.

Sorry to hear he doesn't like GW Hospital -- they've taken care of some VIPs, including the recent cardiac-related visit by former VP Cheney, and earlier with a brain mass that caused some problems for Sen. Tim Johnson (D-South Dakota).


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Opcom on July 08, 2010, 12:58:23 AM
cat shooters? I got only one thing for 'em and it costs about 50 cents.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KB2WIG on July 08, 2010, 12:15:21 PM
G,
Tell the DERB to stay positive.


P,

  " cat shooters? I got only one thing for 'em and it costs about 50 cents. "

Try reloading ...... a lot cheeper.


Rob's posting r/e nursing home care is dead on.

My wife went to see her mother at least 6 out of every 7 days. It got to a point that visitors to her mothers ward thought that she worked there.


klc


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Steve - WB3HUZ on July 08, 2010, 12:25:58 PM
Yea, cat shooters suck. But if you don't let your cats roam the neighborhood, you can be sure they won't get shot.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: k4kyv on July 08, 2010, 03:19:19 PM
How are you going to keep cats from roaming, unless you keep them locked in cages?  It would be about like trying to herd them. Cats don't follow orders the way dogs do, but they sure smell better, and require a lot less maintenance.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K1JJ on July 08, 2010, 03:31:54 PM
Hope your spirits are lifted with the new rig waiting, Derb.  Get well soon, OM.



BTW, Yaz always smells like a bed of sweet petunias - especially after he's been rolling in the low-tide mud at the CT River... ::)

But, seriously, if you let dogs swim in a clean lake or give them a bath every so often, they are pretty clean -especially since they don't sweat like pigs, horses or us.

T


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: ka3zlr on July 08, 2010, 03:53:40 PM
Well...what about horses..?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EUtwNtE1NBA&NR=1


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Steve - WB3HUZ on July 08, 2010, 04:30:27 PM
Don't let them out of the house. Millions of people do it successfully every day.


How are you going to keep cats from roaming, unless you keep them locked in cages?  It would be about like trying to herd them. Cats don't follow orders the way dogs do, but they sure smell better, and require a lot less maintenance.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Ed-VA3ES on July 17, 2010, 03:41:42 PM
What news of Derb?   


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: k4kyv on July 17, 2010, 11:13:37 PM
I am hoping that no news is good news.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KE5YTV on July 24, 2010, 11:40:22 PM
Can anyone please give an update ?


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: WA3VJB on July 25, 2010, 04:02:00 PM

True.
Ours turned 18 this Spring, and has been out of the house twice (from brief escapes in her youth).


Don't let them out of the house. Millions of people do it successfully every day.


How are you going to keep cats from roaming, unless you keep them locked in cages?  It would be about like trying to herd them. Cats don't follow orders the way dogs do, but they sure smell better, and require a lot less maintenance.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Opcom on July 25, 2010, 06:06:56 PM
I can always spot a nice old cat.

The youngsters (3 and 4) here have occasionally slipped out, but quickly return to the nice indoor environment. When the cat is too old to climb the 8 FT backyard fence, which seems to be maybe 14-15, its freedom to go out back is returned so that it can have as much enjoyment as possible in the later years.

The one in the pic is an alleycat in Albufiera, Portugal. He was very old and had so much dignity that he barely acknowledged my presence and did not move an inch as I photographed him.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N3DRB The Derb on July 26, 2010, 10:46:13 PM
Hi guys! Time for an update on Tim......

When I last wrote, he was back in Roanoke Hospital. He was there until a week ago, when they moved him to their rehab facility down the road. He can only stay there until the end of the month, and they are looking at relocating him to yet another home, hopefully in Martinsburg or somewhere very close to here.

. The docs think he suffered another mild stroke somewhere along the line in the last couple of months and as a result his left arm is completely non functioning right now. He still has some feeling in it, though, so the therapists think he may regain some function in it down the road. His "maul paw" still works just fine.  :)

 He is still bed-ridden, they won`t try to get him on his feet until the cast comes off in September. He has so far lost about 44 lbs, but he was last weighed over a week ago, he`s probably lost more than that by now.

He is still super excited about "Uncle Ray". He still can`t believe it`s actually in the garage waiting for him.

He is pretty bummed he won`t be able to be at Berryville. I know he was looking forward to seeing old friends. Maybe if he`s back
in this neck of the woods by then someone might be able to stop by on the way through and visit with him.  :)

I`ll let you all know when he is moved again and the contact info of the new place.

Glo


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: KX5JT on July 26, 2010, 11:22:06 PM
Awesome news!  Thanks for the update.  Can't wait to till the winter when I imagine he'll be swinging those monkeys.  ;D


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: Opcom on July 26, 2010, 11:33:08 PM
wow that beats talking about cats! I'm glad he's excited about Uncle Ray and there's hope for his arm! He's got to eat better! put some weight back on and get his strength back!!


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: K5WLF on July 27, 2010, 02:29:02 AM
Thanks for the update, Glo. I was sure wondering about him and hated not knowing. Please let him know that we're all pulling for him.

ldb
K5WLF


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: WU2D on July 28, 2010, 09:56:53 PM
My best cat story was when I was in Amman Jordan last year for a 1 month stay working. We were walking back to the Intercontinental from a small shop nearby and walking down a back street and saw a feral cat (most cats in the middle east are just around and do not specifically belong to anyone). Jim bent down and petted it and it simply let him. He talked to it and  called it "cool cat". After a few minutes we went into the hotel though the normal tight security and then up to our rooms for a couple of minutes and decided to meet for dinner on the deck over the pool where they had a Lebanese restaurant. Picture well dressed men and women smoking waterpipes with flavored tobacco, a cheesy Egyptian band trying to play American Southern Rock. About 10  minutes in to dinner Jim looks down and there is the cat! He not only found Jim but somehow got up to the second floor of the Hotel. Jim gave it some food and the fancy waiter went nuts trying to chase the cat off the deck! Trouble making Americans...


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: flintstone mop on July 31, 2010, 06:19:18 AM
WOW!!! Summer, one month to go, and DERB goes through more crap!! I thought Ray being in the garage would bring those radio spirits up. And a stroke is not goodness.
The ankle is a long injury to recover. So whomever has the voodoo doll, please burn it!! And let Tim come home.

Put your hands on the radio and feel the spirit move..............

Fred


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: N3DRB The Derb on August 18, 2010, 03:06:58 PM
Hi guys! Just another update on Tim....

Today he got the go-ahead from the doctor to start putting weight on his injured leg. It has healed very nicely, and now he gets to start walking again!  YEAY!!!!!!!!!!!!  :D

He still has lingering effects from the stroke he had a month ago or so when he was at the nursing home in Charles Town.  But he is coming along and getting some movement back in his left arm and leg and hand as well. He is in a home in Keyser, WV right now, and I am going there tonight to stay over and sit in on a PT session with him tomorrow. I am taking his (our) dog Maxxie as well, Tim really misses him and I know Max misses him too. I`ll get some pics to post when I get back. Hopefully he`ll be back home and posting here himself very soon.


Title: Re: Derb in the hospital
Post by: W2PFY on August 18, 2010, 06:10:06 PM
Hi, I wonder if Tim has a lap top computer in his room? If he does, he could install Skype and then we could talk to him free ;D ;D ;D
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